5/10-11/22
I wake up feeling an awesome dread.
Its too intense to ignore completely, though easy enough to distract myself from as it stubbornly looms in the background of my thoughts. It seems attached to nothing specifically, though I figure it probably has something to do with the ever-lengthening list of shit I should get done but don’t have the motivation to do — either that or its anxiety holding me back. Its always difficult to discern which.
I knew I wouldn’t be good at this. Adulting, I mean. I was just explaining to my mother how I knew this from a young age.
It was before I turned ten, as we were still living at the old house. There was a hallway that stretched from the bedrooms and bathrooms to the kitchen, and along the wall of the hallway there were hooks for our coats and bookbags. Despite the fact that only Eve and I were going to school at the time, as Linda was still young, Linda got her own bookbag, loaded it with shit, and hug it beside our own.
She was always eager to grow up and the years that followed didn’t dampen that desire at all. She has proven she is adept at this. Eve wasn’t bad, either. But even then, as a young little shit, I stared at that bookbag and realized how different I was in that respect.
Since as far back as I can remember, I knew I would have a rough time of it, and my life since that point has shown how right I was. When I was a bit younger, adulthood was far down the road, so I could ignore it, but now it began to sink in: before I knew it, I would be on my own, and I had no idea what to do or how to go about doing it. Getting a job, getting a place to live, getting a car, driving a car, paying my bills, being a responsible human in modern society. It suddenly struck me how much I was fucked.
Now, as it turned out, I exceeded my expectations, though given I expected myself to be homeless or dead far before this point in my life, I suppose I didn’t set the bar very high. Still, I’m 43 and I feel I’ve been largely carried or hitched a ride on the coattails of others to get even this far. And its not like my ambitions are huge, either, at least not on the mundane side of things.
I still don’t think adults exist, but there are certainly those who put their all into the role and act it out quite well.
I am not one of those people.
Just one more way in which I feel out of place in a world I don’t belong.
Later in the day, as I’m sweeping the patio at work, sinking into the shitty mood I woke up in, I look up and see a small boy on the other side of the window, staring dead at me, smiling and waving. I wave back and can’t help but smile in return.
Later, I’m sort of enveloped by the mood again as I walk to the dollar store for cleaning supplies. As I’m standing outside, finishing my cigarette, I see a mother with her two young boys. I keep my distance, as I’m smoking, but one of them runs up to me within a few feet. He’s wearing a badge and a plastic fireman’s hat. He looks up at me, smiles, and waves.
I look at him, crack a smile, and wave back, but the mood’s got me, so I sort of stare at the ground as I take another drag. I can still feel his eyes, however. I look back up to find he’s still staring at me, almost like he’s trying to figure something out. He looks rather sad and concerned now, maybe a little hurt.
I feel kind of bad. Like he was trying to cheer me up and I infected him with my mood instead.
Sorry, kid.
Later, back at work. as I’m coming in the doors after having another smoke, there are two kids sitting at a table. As I walk past, one of the kids — a boy who is, at best, in his early teens — held out his hands for a high five. Without stopping, I obliged.
I think to myself how that high five from an older child was sort of a fitting end to the child synchronicity, but then it happens again the following day, and again it seems to be triggered by a bad mood.
I’m on break, in my truck, and get maybe a few lines into the book I’m reading before a kid I work with walks up to my driver side window. What proceeds immediately reminds me of a Bill Hicks bit I haven’t heard in ages.
“You read on break?” He says it with a voice and a scrunched-up face that seems to convey disgust. “Why?”
Not what I’m reading, mind you, but why I’m reading.
He follows this up by saying how he always wondered what I did on break. Rather than be satisfied with having finally solved the mystery and leaving me the fuck alone so I can continue enjoying my free time of thirty minutes, he continues babbling to me for the duration. Blind to my body language, minimalist verbal responses, or the dozens of other factors all pointing towards the clear message of: go the bloody fuck away.
At the end of my not-a-break, I clock in, firmly rooted in a bad fucking mood, and proceed to gather trash from around the store. Out in dining room, I notice there are two occupied tables. At the table in the middle of the dining room is an elderly couple, likely the grandparents of the hyperactive little girl at the table with them.
As I’m changing the trash in the far corner, I hear the kid start yelling in a manner that clearly conveys she’s desperate for the immediate attention of someone.
“Hi! Hi! Hi! Hi! Hi! Hi! Hi!”
Its like she’s stuck in a loop, delivering a rapid-fire greeting, and I look up as it continues and she’s hanging off her grandmother, looking right at me. I smile and wave, then she stops and giggles. Through the giggling, she explains to her grandmother, “He’s funny!”
I’m not at all sure why Munchkinland elected to send these three children via synchronicity in an attempt to lift my spirits, but I certainly appreciate the attempt.